Wisdom... or something like it

I have been playing psychiatrist/advice-giver to more and more people lately... I figure I'd share some of my uh, 20 year old wisdom, to more than one person since most of these problems apply to more than one person. (tho prob not the friends have on this account lol)

BTW I know my IM makes it hard to follow... but you guys are smart... you'll figure it out eventually haha



can i ask you a complicated personal question? Mr Package138 @ 12:38

sure Cathy @ 12:38

i have a moral delima Mr Package138 @ 12:38

oh god anohte rone? Cathy @ 12:39

girls like me and want to bang me right... Mr Package138 @ 12:39

LOL Cathy @ 12:39
if you say so... 12:39
*rolls eyes* 12:39
12:39
go on.. 12:39

you make me laugh Mr Package138 @ 12:39
alright 12:39
but I don't really enjoy intercourse until i get to know a girl 12:40
and after we get close she usually wants to date me 12:40
but i dont want to be in a monogomus relationship yet 12:40

why are you worried about this during finals Cathy @ 12:40
lol 12:40
thats the LAST thing u should be thinking about 12:40

because I have hormones Mr Package138 @ 12:41
its annoying 12:41

usually, Cathy @ 12:41

im either going to wack it, be monogomus with some girl I dont want to settle for, or lie and be a player Mr Package138 @ 12:41

when u make it clear you don't want to be tied down Cathy @ 12:41
girls will want u even more 12:41
so i dont see a problem 12:41
make her work for it 12:41
tie a doggy bone in front of the dog 12:41
with no promise she'lll ever get it 12:42
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everyone keeps telling me to do that Mr Package138 @ 12:42

well, if ur having aproblem doing it Cathy @ 12:42
then ur not a good enough player 12:42

i have to get rid of my morality to satisfy my body or masterbate Mr Package138 @ 12:43

and if you can't get her to stay around if u dont date her Cathy @ 12:43
then she doesn't like you as much as you think she does 12:43
simple as that 12:43

intresting Mr Package138 @ 12:43

you dont have to compromise your morality Cathy @ 12:43
by making it clear you two are not dating 12:43
then u are neither lying 12:43
nor having to only masturbate 12:43
duhhhh 12:43
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i agree with you, but she begs for me to be monogomus and says it will hurt her so much if she is with me and I am not Mr Package138 @ 12:44
i feel responsible 12:44

players do not get emotionally involved Cathy @ 12:44
make her see that relationship is a reward 12:44
and she has done nothign to be deserving of that reward yet 12:44
therefore why should you give it to her unless she works hard for it (by being a good girl) 12:45
she shouldn't feel hurt for soemthign she hasn't earned yet 12:45
thats just silly 12:45

my heart is to big for that game Mr Package138 @ 12:45
i will get attached to her 12:45

well then, your heart should be too big to compromise your morals Cathy @ 12:45
so forget it 12:46
duh 12:46
your either lying about your "heart being too big" cause if it was u'd be content with jacking off 12:46

i hate it Mr Package138 @ 12:46
its degrading 12:46

well then, don't do it Cathy @ 12:46

i think i have some problem Mr Package138 @ 12:46

you obviously WANT to. you just don't like the consequences Cathy @ 12:46
don't worry, after the first couple times, you'll have no remorse 12:47
its the path you choose 12:47

lol Mr Package138 @ 12:47
your like the dark side 12:47

no im not Cathy @ 12:47
i did not say i advocate these techniques 12:47
i am simply laying out your options for you 12:47
and not letting you make excuses 12:47
you know what you WANT to do... 12:47
you are just afraid of the guilt or moral consequences of it or what people will think 12:48
but u must learn, no one will give a shit 12:48
and you are the only one who must live with your decisions 12:48
so.. if u think what your doing is wrong but u wanna do it anyway 12:48
just do it and don't tell anyone 12:48
problem solved. 12:48

its only wrong because i feel responsible for that girls actions Mr Package138 @ 12:49
she is fully aware of what she is doing 12:49

shes a big girl Cathy @ 12:49
exactly 12:49
if she is aware 12:49
you have no responsibility 12:49

but if she acts like a good girl, I am afraid I will get attached Mr Package138 @ 12:49

if anything, you can claim she forced you to Cathy @ 12:49
well then, you're weak 12:49

i am Mr Package138 @ 12:49

well, i can't help you with that Cathy @ 12:49
maybe you should figure out the real reason why you don't want to settle down 12:50
since the way you explain it sounds like you like to settle down but are afraid of the consequeneces of that 12:50

im fucked up because of my past relationship... 4 years of my life wasted with a girl I fell for because she was a "good girl" Mr Package138 @ 12:51

maybe it seems like u just moved here, there are so many fish in the sea.. u dont want to settle for one jus tyet Cathy @ 12:51

thats exactly it Mr Package138 @ 12:51

but... remember, that if you find the right girl Cathy @ 12:51
and u lose her cacuse of that 12:51
u lose her for good probably 12:51
the rest of the fish aren't hat great anyway 12:51
but i guess if u haven't experienced it yet, you need to otherwise you'll aways think about it 12:51
get it out of your system 12:52
then go settle down 12:52

the sow my oats theroy Mr Package138 @ 12:52

you'll find, it's not that great anyway Cathy @ 12:52

maybe I will go see a swrink Mr Package138 @ 12:52

your fine Cathy @ 12:53
everyone goes thru this 12:53
you just have more choices now than u did in texas 12:53
so all the choices are both temping and confusing 12:53
you'll sort through them eventually 12:53
just takes time and experience 12:53

where the hell do you get this shit from, are you like reading out of a book or what Mr Package138 @ 12:54

i have had both time and experience Cathy @ 12:54
ive been thru alot of shit 12:54

and yet your younger than me Mr Package138 @ 12:54

i started early Cathy @ 12:54

i guess so Mr Package138 @ 12:54

and i learn quick Cathy @ 12:54
hehe 12:54

im glad your my friend Mr Package138 @ 12:54
im going to bed now 12:55

night Cathy @ 12:55

goodnight









I know... everytime I give advice like this, it will never be done.. cause people are curious... if only we could completely satisfy curiosity by learning from others. We would learn so much faster =) but I guess somethings.. just have to be "gone through" ...



I wonder which regret is greater... regret losing "the one" or regret never trying out all the fish of the sea.... I can't answer this one cause I have never found (therefore never loss) "the one". Lucky for me, I tried out the fish and if "the one" comes along, I don't have to wonder "what else is out there". I'll know what I want when I find it =)